Trust Me

I have always wondered why people feel the need to say "trust me".  If the actions being shown are those of trust, is this a trick to make me believe the words to trust even when the actions don't match. I would say we do live in a society where we listen to the rhetoric and the verbal queues and gladly ignore whether the actions match or not.  

In the quest to establish a trusting environment, I am not sure folks quite understand trying to force the concept of trust, especially after that trust had been broken, is not effectively re-established by the word "trust me".  In my opinion and experience, the trust may only be re-established once the actions exemplify trust.  Then possibly in time the words of "trust me" may actually come in alignment with the actions to demonstrate the collective trust.  

I have been told to "trust me" for a period of time now and very directly indicated it's in the actions that I will believe.  Unfortunately, some people have to pay the price for others actions but in certain environments, that is the way it is.  I can try to separate the two but when the cause of the lost trust is still a factor, they cannot be separated and it is unreasonable for something to expect the human mind to keep them separate and distinct.  

And yet, the path to resolution is there.  Actions. Actions. Actions.  I'm sure we've all heard the old phrase "Actions speak louder than words".  It's not a common phrase as something catchy to say, but it's in the truth of its meaning that it is continuously pointed to as the path to resolution.  And then it's a choice if one chooses to take the path. Live and own the actions.  Stand up and speak up.  It's in the actions that we can light the path to trust.  

My personal experience today was where the words and actions did not match.  I was asked to trust blindly.  I trusted with caution and understand that would be my action on the path to meet halfway.  I trusted it was safe to share a concern.  Not only did I learn it was not safe, but trust was also broken.  Tables were turned. I was cited for errors (four times) I made in expressing how I felt.  I received feedback to "get a thicker skin".  In the end shut down, trust broken, actions not anywhere within reach of the words being preached for months.  

Am I angry? Not really; it was enlightening. It's good to know where things are. At least that was revealed through this situation.  The words "trust me" are empty promises. Now, I will always look for the actions to demonstrate trust and in time, possibly, the words will become believable.  This time "trust me", it's now going to take a lot longer to establish trust and my actions will match my words.  ~ChaChaSpirit